The function of a family should be to socialize, unconditionally with each other, for the purpose of providing and maintaining physical and spiritual care, by simply applying social control through loving and nurturing. If you do not apply these, you will without a doubt have a dysfunctional family, to deal with. You better believe it. You might not notice it now, but without fail you shall experience it at a later stage in your lifetime. A dysfunctional family, is one that lacks empathy, has poor communication and understanding skills, practices emotional and physical abuse, causing fear and unpredictability, abuse of drugs and alcohol, and last but not least disrespect of all boundaries and many more, just to mention a few. Children that come from these sorts of homes, are usually most aggressive and non-compliant, creating for themselves an increasing degree of depression, which eventually leads to social alienation and disaster. When we are born, we all carry a unique personality, which should be enriched, and to do that we need our parents to raise us in an ambiance of love, peace, harmony and of course health in all aspects of the word. With all this in mind you become a respectful, responsible, trustworthy, and caring citizen, with a character, second to none. If we do not fall into this category, we are called “naughty children”, where there are no such individuals, but yes! Possibly “children with an unacceptable behaviour”. If this is the case, then the blame goes straight to the parents, because they did not care at first, in allowing time to be with the family, socializing, eventually having to face the music, unnecessarily.
Whenever there is a lack of “social love” in the household, pressure just mounts, both, in and out of the home environment, due to people being lost and having no one to guide them, causing kids to look for some sort of stability and finding it in their “friends” or associates, be it viable or not. The fact of the matter is that someone is listening and communicating with them, hence the interest is diverted, because of the comfort offered. This now causes the kids not to listen to their parents, but to their friends, automatically causing an uncomfortable situation in the “home environment”.
Rethink your whole strategy, by first and foremost, applying “LOVE” (COMMUNICATE, UNDERSTAND, TRUST, AND RESPECT),then by giving valuable, justifiable reasons for what you do and do not do, say and do not say, so that others have something to think about and eventually understanding the situation. Make it a habit in your environment, to set goals, so that you are focused on your journey, not allowing you to be distracted by something that could put you off the rails and lead you to disaster, such as committing suicide and sorts.
IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN SOME SORT OF DIRE SITUATION, JUST RELAX, THINK, ASSESS AND PROCEED IN THE DIRECTION THAT MAKES YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE AWAY FROM DEPRESSION AND DISTRESS.
BON VOYAGE!